Grieving mum celebrates wedding with gifts for charity in memory of daughter lost to brain tumour
A heartbroken mum who lost her only child to a brain tumour is asking guests at her wedding to give donations to charity in lieu of gifts.
Michelle Inman was 11 weeks pregnant, happily married and running a successful IT business with her husband, when she was struck down by an undiagnosed brain tumour.
She was taken ill at her home in Lancashire in June and died within hours, along with her unborn child. Just four years earlier Michelle had lost her father Ron Darby less than a fortnight after he was diagnosed with lung cancer.
Now her mum Cheryl, who will marry Adrian Barnard on 6th September in Torquay, will remember her much-loved daughter and the grandchild she never met during a poignant speech.
Cheryl, of Blackbrook Avenue, Paignton, said: “We have asked our guests to give donations to the charity Brain Tumour Research in lieu of gifts and I will pay tribute to Michelle during a speech on the day asking everyone to eat too much, drink too much, laugh too much and dance the night away as she would have wanted us to. Michelle loved the glitz and glamour of a big occasion and I am determined it will be a day of celebration that she would have loved.”
The wedding was originally planned for next March but, following the tragedy, the couple have brought the date forward.
Cheryl explained: “Michelle was going to be my bridesmaid and the baby, my first grandchild would have been there too, and thinking about that is too much to bear. I take consolation from the fact that Michelle was unaware she had a brain tumour.
“It is unbelievably cruel that she should be snatched away from us in this shocking manner at the age of just 29 when she had so much to look forward to and was the happiest she had ever been. There are no words to describe our loss.
“Michelle had an undiagnosed high-grade brain tumour and, despite the efforts of an amazing neurosurgeon and his team, who battled to save her, it wasn’t to be. Her husband James, himself only 27, took the tragic decision to turn off her life support machine so losing his wife, his first child, and all his hopes and dreams for their future. Our only hope is that the money raised for research will give hope to others.”
Brain Tumour Research funds a network of Centres of Excellence, including one at Plymouth University, where scientists are focused on improving treatments for brain tumour patients and, ultimately, finding a cure.
Carol Robertson, Head of Community Fundraising for Brain Tumour Research, said: “We are so grateful to Cheryl and Adrian for supporting our work in lieu of wedding gifts and for sharing Michelle’s story in the hope of raising awareness and helping others. Sadly they are not alone in their loss as brain tumours kill more children and adults under the age of 40 than any cancer yet just 1% of the national spend on cancer research has been allocated to this devastating disease.”
To make a donation to Brain Tumour Research in memory of Michelle please go to https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/adrianandcherylwedding2
To take part in the walk or another challenge please visit www.braintumourresearch.org
For further information, please contact:
Susan Castle-Smith at Brain Tumour Research on 01908 867206 or 07887 241639 or Susan@braintumourresearch.org
Notes to Editors
Brain Tumour Research is the only national charity in the UK focused on funding sustainable research to find a cure for brain tumours. We are building a game-changing network of world-class Research Centres of Excellence in the UK. Embracing passionate member charities nationwide, £5.5 million was raised towards research and support during 2016.
We are campaigning to see the national spend on research into brain tumours increased to £30 - £35 million a year, in line with breast cancer and leukaemia. The charity is celebrating a year of high-profile campaigning on this issue following the unprecedented success of its petition in 2016. Following that, Brain Tumour Research is now taking a leading role in the Government’s Task and Finish Working Group convened to tackle the historic underfunding for research.
Key statistics on brain tumours:
- Brain tumours kill more children and adults under the age of 40 than any other cancer
- They kill more children than leukaemia
- They kill more men under 45 than prostate cancer
- They kill more women under 35 than breast cancer
- Just 1% of the national spend on cancer research has been allocated to this devastating disease
- In the UK 16,000 people each year are diagnosed with a brain tumour
- Less than 20% of those diagnosed with a brain tumour survive beyond five years compared with an average of 50% across all cancers
- Incidences of, and deaths from, brain tumours are increasing.
Please quote Brain Tumour Research as the source when using this information. Additional facts and statistics are available from our website including our latest Report on National Research Funding. We can also provide case-studies and research expertise for media.